Seems like traffic on this site goes in cycles- some times are much busier than others- & maybe people are put off by the spam postings. Anyway, this site is important as a source of support for parents, friends of addicts.
I go to Nar-anon meetings and at my group most of the people are parents/grandparents of addicts. We have so much in common- feeling like we're going crazy ourselves at times when our kids are using, waiting for the other shoe to drop when they're not using, trying to figure out what is enabling, what is acceptable helping - it's not easy. It helps to share with others. It's depressing to realize that there are so many of us, but at the same time it's good not to feel alone.
I love being able to come to this site and the Nar-anon cafe in addition to weekly face-to-face meetings. Reaching out and admitting our family situation and accepting help is so important.
My son is very active in 12-step groups - NA, CA and CMA - and he is doing well now- got his 90 day key tag a few days ago. It is a struggle for him at times, and he will be an addict forever. That's not something that suddenly just goes away. I am also realizing that, as the parent of an addict and child of an alcoholic, my co-dependency won't just disappear either. Therefore, I am grateful to Nar-anon and to this site- keeps me on track.
Hi Deb, hi everyone, I went to my first alanon meeting in over 2 years, now I am "free" to go and not have the fear I used to have that my ex would blow up if he found out. My son has 57 more days of his sentence in drug court program in jail, he is doing very well, sounds positive and upbeat and says he feels very good physically and mentally, 63 days clean now. He had another friend die of heroin while he was incarcerated and I think maybe JUST MAYBE this will hit home now and make him want to stay clean when he gets out. I am enjoying the time with my new husband and my 5 month old granddaughter (from my other son) is a blessing who brings such joy to our lives.
Hello familiar "faces." It's good to see some I remember from way back. So many new, so few posts. This site was so beneficial way back, almost two years ago I believe. Just an update. My daughter had 1 1/2 years clean and sober and relapsed in October. Back on the heroin. I was able to let go let God and waited until I received the phone call that she called inpatient and would I take her that afternoon for her assessment. She went into detox Feb9 and has just received her 30 days. The relapse was a bad one...denial and lie after lie, but we know. The signs are all too familiar. Through it all she was able to make the Dean's list again with a 4.0. She is doing well, appears to "like" the facility and only time will tell. I really thought she was on her way forward but addiction can grab when the addict least expects it. Good to hear from you all and know some are still here. To all others....we all walk the same journey, our paths are sometimes different. Prayers tonight for all who suffer from addiction.