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jane'o Posts: 6 Registered: 8/4/09 Re: Please give me advise on this! Posted: Aug 5, 2009 12:04 PM   Reply Suggest to your loved one that you would be glad to help if they will help themselves by going into treatment. If not, and you feel you really need to help with the meds then hold them and administer as directed. Good luck jane'o

exhausted Posts: 14 Registered: 8/5/09 Re: Please give me advise on this! Posted: Aug 5, 2009 12:21 PM   Reply I would reject giving your loved one the medicine. If you believe they are still using, then they may sell the meds. Offer treatment or say a prayer. In the end, treatment is the answer, so we have to stop enabling.

Hopeful Posts: 53 Registered: 4/15/09 Re: Please give me advise on this! Posted: Aug 5, 2009 1:19 PM   Reply I know...you are correct...but selling Effexor? What's that worth on the street? I guess if he can find other drugs, he can find a way to get the ones he "really" needs. I am losing my mind today over him. "God grant me the serentity.............

Hopeful Posts: 53 Registered: 4/15/09 Re: Please give me advise on this! Posted: Aug 5, 2009 1:20 PM   Reply No, in the end...HE HAS TO STOP WANTING TO CHOOSE THIS LIFESTYLE.......

Ann Posts: 646 Registered: 6/6/09 Re: Please give me advise on this! Posted: Aug 5, 2009 10:18 PM   Reply No longer on this forum. Message was edited by: Ann

Hopeful Posts: 53 Registered: 4/15/09 Re: Please give me advise on this! Posted: Aug 6, 2009 10:33 AM   Reply Heard from his girlfriend today. He is in court for a probabtion violation and his attorney said he is probably going to jail. I guess then it won't matter.... I am sickened by this disease...I can only pray.....I'm having a tough time haninging in there today....please pray for me...I'm losing it and trying not to.

Ann Posts: 646 Registered: 6/6/09 Re: Please give me advise on this! Posted: Aug 6, 2009 11:26 AM   Reply No longer on this forum. Message was edited by: Ann

Ann Posts: 646 Registered: 6/6/09 Re: Please give me advise on this! Posted: Aug 6, 2009 11:11 PM   Reply No longer on this forum. Message was edited by: Ann

Hopeful Posts: 53 Registered: 4/15/09 Re: Please give me advise on this! Posted: Aug 8, 2009 12:51 PM   Reply Ann; Maybe that IS the answer for him. He has been there before but not for very long. Just awaiting sentencing, which took 6 weeks. He has gone on a full blown "using" binge again and I fear the worst for him. He has said, if he goes to jail he will "run" or "kill" himself... Don't know to believe either...can't believe anything he says...don't know if I ever will.....how sad.....

Ann Posts: 646 Registered: 6/6/09 Re: Please give me advise on this! Posted: Aug 9, 2009 4:36 PM   Reply No longer on this forum. Message was edited by: Ann

evhossvmd Posts: 1 Registered: 8/19/09 Re: Please give me advise on this! Posted: Aug 19, 2009 12:38 PM   Reply Dear Ann and Hopeful I think the hardest thing I had to do was to go into court after my son was arrested for Herione possesion and tell the assistant DA to not let my son out on bail.I told her that he would probably kill himself by overdosing.She agrred.I also knew the cort appointed attorney who was a member of the church I attended.He told me to go home and he would deal with Paul Paul was shocked that I was not in the court when he was arraigned .He elected to go to a drug and alsohol program that was inthe state prison system.That was a shock to kid from a very affluent town.He stayed there 3o days and came back for his hearind.He agreed to go to a program he had attended before and then went to another program for 10 months. He has been sober for almost 3 years ,working and getting married.He has come a long way .My wife and I have been attending alanon which has been great.My prayers are with you.

Ann Posts: 646 Registered: 6/6/09 Re: Please give me advise on this! Posted: Aug 19, 2009 1:00 PM   Reply No longer on this forum. Message was edited by: Ann

Rosena Posts: 515 Registered: 6/8/09 Re: Please give me advise on this! Posted: Aug 9, 2009 8:23 PM   Reply I have read this post over and over without responding. It is so hard to make a choice on this one. My personal opinion is that if you know they are still using, any financial assistance you give them, even necessary medications, you are giving them even more money towards their drug use. That is only my personal belief. One of my boundaries is that I will NOT assist in any way with financial assistance if I know you are using. Sometimes it is so hard, but I stand firm. I remember my boundary and try to focus on that rather than the situation at hand. Sometimes I have felt so terrible for not helping, but it is teaching them that they have to put their priorities in some kind of order. If they want that drug, then they sacrifice for it, or their children sacrifice for it. It is harder than you can imagine at times.

cindykay Posts: 284 Registered: 6/5/09 Re: Please give me advise on this! Posted: Aug 11, 2009 8:34 PM   Reply This is a very tough topic. In our case, I did continue to pay for medication and still pay for suboxone. Maybe the difference was that my daughter was making the attempts to get help through AA, rehabs and counseling. She was not working due to addiction and dual diagnosis, and truly needed her meds for various conditions. I went to the drug store, bought them and monitored them. I never gave her cash to go to the store herself. I guess it depends on the medical condition and the attitude of the addict.