Lori
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28
Registered:
9/29/10
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Re: Lost
Posted:
Nov 15, 2010 8:30 PM
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All of us here are searching for the same thing, a way to cope with a loved one's addiciton. All of our situations are quite different but if there is one single thing we can all agree on it is this: We cannot make the addict we love sober no matter what we do. Offering support, taking them to rehab, hiding drugs, finding doctors, comforting them when they are ill, forcing promising, bribery, threats, all useless until the time comes that the addict finds, in his or her soul the deep desire to get clean and find a way back. They have to want it very badly, from a deep place inside that has nothing to do with us. You are young and have much life still to live. Alanon and Alateen can offer you support and a method of letting go of the destructive relationship that will eventually drag you down into a very dark pit. You need to feel that you are not alone and get strength from others to do this. You can keep hope alive for the day your boyfriend finds recovery, and let him know you love him, but you need to do this from a distance, you can't be a witness to his destruction, it is far too painful and won't help him. You have much joy still ahead and deserve to find it.
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